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With Facebook currently having 1.55 billion monthly active users, it provides an easy and casual way to get in touch with people, both those known to us and meeting  new ‘friends.’

Often we hear the disastrous stories of users reconnecting with previous partners, with the intent, (unconsciously or consciously), of rekindling that relationship. This could be seen as the start of problems arising in a current relationship.

However, another view, is that this only brings to light, problems that already exist in that relationship; an attempt to meet those unmet needs through a virtual contact?

It is interesting that when people are feeling vulnerable and relationships are not going well, they hand over their power to a greater force, i.e. Facebook, and are then able to feel free from taking responsibility and making their own choices.

Because we contact someone, or they contact us via Facebook, this doesn’t mean this social media site  makes our choices for us, any more than if we have an encounter at a social event.

However it somehow it seems easier to conduct a relationship online, as it may feel safer? Unreal? Safer because we perceive we are maintaining a distance with the new contact?

“Until you make the unconscious conscious, it will direct your life and you will call it fate.” C.G. Jung

Far more effective to improve your relationships in a permanent way by experiencing healthy relationships, based on trust and commitment, recognise that these changes have to start with you. Relationship difficulties can stem from deeper issues that would benefit exploration in counselling and psychotherapy, either as a couple or individual.

This may be the best investment you will ever make in you, and in your relationships with others.